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How Haitians overcome the country’s endless difficulties, getting creative to wed in style

In Haiti, couples often have to surmount endless obstacles, from unrest and hurricanes to power outages and, above all, poverty, to get wed.

Even though marriage is not as widespread in Haiti as in other Western countries, given the long-standing Creole tradition of ‘plasaj,’ an informal marital relationship that is common in rural areas but not legally recognized, however, marriage has greater prestige and is particularly favoured by Haiti’s wealthier, and also because it is recognized abroad.

Protestant churchgoing communities also favour marriage, especially if a couple is expecting a baby. Not to be surprised, some religious schools will only accept pupils if their parents can provide a marriage certificate.

Unfortunately, Plasaj does not grant rights such as child support in the event of separation, or a share of a partner’s estate if they die.

Patricia, who is pregnant, and Obelson, who got married in a joint ceremony with another pregnant couple who they did not know, to share the costs of the ceremony, pose for a photo outside the church where they got married in Baie de Henne, Nord Ouest Department, Haiti, October 27, 2018. Obelson, who works as a motorcycle driver, met Patricia while working. When she fell pregnant, her parents insisted that they get married. Protestant churchgoing communities in Haiti favour marriage, especially if a couple is expecting a child with some religious schools only accepting pupils if their parents can provide a marriage certificate. Image credit REUTERS/Valerie Baeriswyl

For example, Johanne Jean, 38, wed one month after giving birth, nursing her baby throughout the day. “I fell pregnant and, as we are both churchgoers, we decided to get married”.

“Often the reverend himself puts pressure on the couple, saying it is the will of God, which you cannot disobey,” explained Haitian ethnologist Isaac Ducléon.

Still, in a country where more than half the population lives under the poverty line of $2.41 per day, only the wealthiest of Haitian couples can afford the full shebang of a wedding ceremony, lavish dinner reception, and honeymoon.

Most have to get creative. Sometimes multiple couples get married at the same time to save on church fees.

Some skip the reception or, in the countryside, offer a simple meal of bread, fried plantains, rice and coffee. Sometimes, the whole village might provide food. Disputes can occur when there is not enough for all those who turn up, or when guests try to take home dishes or drinks.

The couple may hire a pickup truck or motorbike taxis for the day to ferry people around. Or they may just walk to church, sweating up and down hills in their wedding clothes in the tropical heat.

Nonetheless, usually, the cake is not big enough for everyone to have a piece so it is put on display during the wedding and consumed later at home by the couple and their close relatives.

But even though anti-government protesters and many difficulties lie in Haiti’s capital, whose main roads are blocked and clashed with police, Stanley Joseph and Daphne Gerard used the city’s winding and potholed backroads to make it to church for their wedding, decked out in all their finery.

For quite some time, the bride had wondered if it would have been better to postpone the big day when it became clear that a majority of their guests would not make it, due to the violent unrest that had gripped Port-au-Prince for months now.

But the desire to say “yes, I do” was too big, and there was already much money involved.

Joseph, 36, agreed with his bride, although that meant chartering a plane to bring Gerard’s parents up from the country’s south-east.

But wed they do and in style.

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“We always have problems in Haiti. You can’t wait. You just have to get on and overcome them,” said Joseph, who wore a silver suit and lilac tie and boutonniere, matching the bridesmaids’ lilac dresses. “I was stressed but happy.”

Despite these arrangements, the impressiveness of the ceremony is the one element of the Haitian wedding that never lacks.

“It’s partly about expressing your social status,” pointed out Jean Pierre. “Even the poorest women make an effort to have a beautiful wedding, which for them means a big eye-catching procession that people will talk about for a long time.”

The bridal procession in the church usually includes friends playing the part of a king and queen, while the bridesmaids and groomsmen often dress so similarly to the bride and groom that it can be difficult to define, from outside, who is getting wed.

If a couple has relatives abroad willing to be the ‘godparents’ or witnesses, these will typically make a financial contribution to the wedding, including buying and shipping the bride’s dress, usually a bouffant white gown.

Reggae singer Mirla-Samuelle Pierre, 32, said her cousin who lives in New York and was her wedding godmother purchased her dress, shoes, gloves and a tall sparkling crown.

“I wanted to be different to everyone else so I got the tallest one there was,” said Pierre, who married her drummer and composer bandmate Duckyns St-Eloi, better known as ‘Zikiki’.

She wed in a church, mainly to please her parents. But the theme of the wedding decoration was ‘rastafari,’ reflecting the culture of the dreadlocked groom.

Zikiki, 38, wore a red, black, green and gold scarf over his white suit and surprised his bride as she arrived in the church by belting out the jazz song “What a Wonderful World.”

Like all but the wealthiest Haitians, they chose not to spend any money on a grand reception or honeymoon.

“Instead, that same evening we went out to a nightclub,” said Zikiki, “and we had a lot of fun together.”


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